23 July, 2024

Things I am Leaving Behind Me, Right Now: a List

  • things that no longer serve my highest self.
  • worrying what others think.
  • [within the reasonable realm of responsibilities] anyone/anything that doesn't promote inner peace.
  • comparing myself to other people, in any manner.
  • stressing about things I cannot change.
  • worrying about unchangeable events that happened in the past.
  • saying 'yes' when I really want to say 'no.'
  • not prioritizing the things that truly matter.
  • doubting my abilities, resilience, strength, courage, intelligence, or capabilities
  • believing I don’t deserve things.
  • holding on to past mistakes and defining myself by them for eternity.
  • being hesitant to step into my authentic self.
  • second-guessing 
  •  procrastinating. 
  • fetishizing having "less" needs
  • not being fully present. 
  • doom-scrolling 
  • grudge-holding
  • overthinking. rumination. obsessive thoughts.
  • taking on more than I know I can give myself to, fully.
 
©Nick Bantock

 

17 July, 2024

Together again.

Alec is home. 
 
Since I left (for Chicago, in March) we've only shared a handful of days together-- 
5 days. 
12 Days. 
9 days. 
7 days. 
Here and there.
 
One handful in New York. 
Then Chicago.
Another in Sacramento. 
Back and forth. 
There and back again.
But too few here, in our beloved "Winter Palace" as a whole family with Tati.
 
He's back for 14 precious days before going away again (for his third annual August trip to Scotland, for the Edinburgh Fringe). 
 

When we first got together we courted long-distance with letters and phone calls and FaceTime and texting. It never felt like a chore to communicate. Remaining connected always felt natural and easy, in many ways pleasurable; and the love did thrive between Chicago and New York. We saw one another every three weeks or so (we learned that was the "max" pretty early on), learning that after the 21-day mark we became out of sync, forgot little things, became accustomed to solitude. 

Then the pandemic. Hyper-closeness. We were thrown together in 750 square feet and as two introverts perfectly suited to one another? We thrived where many suffered (and never to be forgotten: many did not literally survive).

All of that is to say: this is hard. But I acknowledge that, in a way, we are "victims" of our collective artistic abundance, the price of a life in art, can be sacrifices like this. 

 
So here is to soaking up these summer days in the glow of my love. 
 
And then one more Scottish separation before a fall together.
 
Home stretch, my love. 
Bon voyage. 


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